Thanks to Katherine from Bright Lights of America for this idea… You can check out her Couple’s Travel Quiz here.
We love to travel together, but no matter how close you are or how long you’ve been together, travelling together can be both a rewarding experience and a potential minefield.
Over the last 28 or so years we’ve learnt a lot about how to get the most out of a trip by respecting each other’s travel personalities:
- We both need time apart as well as time together
- I like to be by a pool or on a beach – even if I don’t want to spend a huge amount of time there – and he doesn’t
- He likes to have a tv in the room and I don’t
- I like art galleries and museums and he doesn’t
- He likes to shop and I don’t
- I don’t like to overindulge at breakfast because I don’t want to miss out on lunch – he’d prefer to have a big breakfast and manage with a snack at lunchtime
- I like to get to an airport, do the check-in thing and sit down with a drink and a book to wait. He doesn’t like to get there early and once checked in will then want to chat about pretty much nothing – while I’m trying to zone out.
- We both enjoy foodie walking tours
- We both enjoy wandering and ending up somewhere we didn’t expect to
- We both enjoy road trips
- We both love produce markets
- We both enjoy street food but will book one “special” night out each trip
Fortunately, he’s happy to people watch if I want to do the museum thing, and I’m happy to read if he wants to watch tv. We’re cool about each other’s personal space and as a result, he’s still my favourite person to travel with – even though he does do my head in at airports.
Where are you likely to find your partner in a new city you’ve travelled to?
Grant – Absolutely not in the shops or on the high street. I’d find her in a slightly edgy or grungey coffee shop with her journal. Probably somewhere with street art.
Jo – Sitting in a park watching the world go by…or waiting for me to take a photo or finish in a gallery or museum.
What’s the first thing your partner does in a new city?
G – Take to the streets on a walking tour. She hates those introductory city tours where at the end they take you to one of those gem/batik/craft/whatever stores. She has no tolerance for that.
J – Whatever walking tour I’ve booked us on.
What is your partner’s travelling downfall?
G – She’s so paranoid about missing planes that she’s always way too early. She’s a control freak and doesn’t trust bookings she hasn’t made herself.
J – He’s a “just in time” man and doesn’t allow for local traffic conditions. He tends to start getting ready at the time we need to be leaving. He worries more about the budget than I do – both a plus and a minus. He doesn’t really like to change destinations if it involves another flight.
What is your partner’s travelling personality?
G – She likes to have transport and accommodation organised, and a list of other things researched but likes to wander and have lots of unplanned time.
J – It’s about the people and culture for him. He likes to get under the skin of a place. He doesn’t like a fixed schedule and wants to be able to spend as long as he wants if it’s somewhere that’s interesting.
Why does your partner like to travel?
G – For the experiences.
J – For the culture.
What is the most fun about travelling with your partner?
G – She can laugh at nearly anything and likes to wander. She’s organised, but not restrictive with it. She doesn’t mind doing things on her own if I’m not interested in it.
J – He’s happy to do whatever I decide usually – or wait while I do it if he’s not interested. He’ll try anything.
What is the place your partner most wants to travel to?
G – I can’t answer that – she has a list that changes all the time. Probably wherever she’s booked to go next. Seriously though, it’s easier to talk about places that aren’t on her list. There are also lots of places she wants to go back to and explore more deeply.
J – He’d love to do a Cunard cruise out of Southampton. One that goes through the Suez or Panama Canal. He’d love to see the Northern Lights and would like to go to St Petersburg.
What is the place your partner least wants to travel to?
G – Probably the Middle East or anywhere where she feels her freedoms are limited or there are too many rules she has to abide by – or where she feels that she can’t go into a bar on her own and have a drink if she wanted to do that. She doesn’t have a burning desire to go to Africa either.
J – He’s not interested in South America, the South Pacific or any of the walks I want to do. His idea of travel hell is an isolated resort, “honeymoon” style islands, gated communities – anywhere advertising seclusion or luxurious privacy. he’s not a villa type of man.
What is your partner’s favourite part of a new country?
G – The photo opportunities. I sometimes joke that I’m on holiday with Jo and her camera. And the food.
J – The people watching and local street food. He’s not interested in how the wealthy live or eat – it’s about everyday life and food for him. He likes supermarkets – so he can see what the cost of living is.
What is your partner’s most annoying habit at the dinner table while travelling?
G – She has to take a photo of everything she eats and drinks.
J – Just choose what you want to eat already – it’s not that hard!
What does your partner dislike about travelling?
G – The crowds – she hates crowds. She also doesn’t like anything that’s too pristine or glitzy or non-inclusive and she doesn’t like feeling as though she’s controlled or heavily scheduled. She’s not big on the clichéd attractions or eating at places just because of a celebrity tag – she’s a bit of a reverse snob. Oh, and she hates queueing.
J – Hanging about airports and getting to airports
What is your partner’s travel superpower?
G – The planning and research she puts in. She has a knack for finding things that aren’t in the Lonely Planet Guide.
J – He can pack a suitcase and have it look the same when it’s opened as it did when he shut it. He also knows what’s going on around him – spatial awareness. He makes me feel safe.
How did we go? We got each other’s answers spot on. Why not try it for yourself with your travel partner?
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